Sunday, September 14, 2014

Why Stay?

       The video of Ray Rice punching his then fiancee has been shown on television repeatedly thanks to the Kings of Gossip - TMZ. Now everybody who is an avid football fall, or at least television viewer, has witnessed the scene of the famous knockout punch and later Ray Rice dragging his unfortunate wife from across the floor. After the picture first aired masses of anti - domestic violence and pro -  woman groups as well as individuals came out in front of the microphones and cameras voicing their dismay and anger against Ray Rice, NFL commissioner Roger Goodell, and the NFL. The NFL was receiving constant attacks and criticism for running a league full of mad driven, high ego males who habitually beat up their wives and girlfriends as if the behavior was customary. Myself, a fan of Ray Rice and a sorta fan of the Baltimore Ravens felt very disappointed in him. "He should have known better", I thought. Regardless of what she may have said or done, "he did not have to punch her". But, like most people, after hearing her comments concerning the transgression, - "No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family" - a feeling of shock and disbelief immediately struck me. "Don't you realize that man could have easily ended your life?!?" I felt like screaming inside her ears. But then after awhile the feelings of disbelief dissipated. I realized that this is a domestic situation and these scenarios are often extremely complicated. I began to read the commentaries on many of the readers of various internet articles based on the Ray and Janay Rice domestic incident and saw similarities between their comments and my initial feelings regarding Janay Rice's response. A lot of Americans  are still clueless when it comes to domestic violence. Many of them assume that Janay is simply standing by her husband for his money or that she is just the typical booty shaking, pro sports groupie whose brain is located nowhere close to reality. But despite what many people believe her support for her man may have nothing to do with his money. She may be inellectually  brighter than you and I. Domestic violence has little to do with the financial power of the man, his family or their social status. Poor husbands beat up their wives just as much as rich and middle class husbands. Spousal abuse occurs throughout all occupations, nations, religions, and cultures. Domestic violence is an individual issue where various combinations of anger, fear, and suspicion is triggered by events and circumstances. The effects of these events and circumstances differ depending on the aggressor and his or her personal history as well as psychological mindset.  The victim in the relationship, her history, psychological mindset also contributes towards the intensity and frequency of the violence by how he or she responds to the aggressor and the situation. When he yells does she often yell back? When he strikes does she often strike back? When he threatens her does she stay in the home or does she call a friend or relative? When she comes after him does he lock himself inside a safe place or does he immediately call the police? When she says she is sorry does he believe her? There are so many more questions but each and every one of them are crucial. Each question plays a very key role in the decisions the agressor and the victim will make and whether or not their will be further violence in the relationship.
       A lot of people place complete blame on Ray Rice stating that no man should ever hit a woman no excuses. As a person who has spent three years interacting within domestic violence and anger management group sessions I know, that simply walking away from a loved one who upsets you is not always easy. Words as well as actions hurt and when that loved one says those few words or sentences that hits that nerve the individual immediately wants to fight back. Human beings are prideful we don't always want to walk away allowing another person to win the argument or get away with saying something hurtful. But then again I was not there in the parking lot with the couple so I cannot state for sure whether or not Janay Rice said anything meaningfully provoking toward her husband or whether he may have been doing all the provoking from the very beginning himself. Regardless though, a man should never hit a woman. especially a man that big. Ray Rice should have known better. He did not have to punch her. He could have called a friend, a cab, even the police, just to protect him, his wife, his children from encountering a life changing situation. And it is very possible he may have punched her before. If that is the case I pray that Janay wakes up and calls the authorities or someone for help because way too many real stories occur where a loved one ends the life of someone he or she was supposed to take care of but failed to because of the inability to control his or her temper. And if Janay is often saying cruel words to him in order to provoke him and he is not able to handle it then he needs to consult further counsel and help from a trusted source. They have the money they can afford it.
       As mentioned before domestic violence is a very complicated issue and should not be treated as a one size fits all affair. It is possible that this was a one time infraction that will never happen again. I believe that the two really love each other but like all couples they have disagreements and this time the argument between the two got way out of control. The first thing they should do is to do everything to not allow the media, ex. TMZ, or public opinion to influence their reliatonship. TMZ cares nothing for Janay and Ray Rice. The media simply is running after the ratings and all the money, attention, and laughter that comes with it. Shut the door from the media get help and counseling. Attend a church, yes church, that believes strongly in the Word of God as well as loving on people. It does not occur often but yes couples do save their marriages, even have good ones after experiencing marital violence. It takes a lot of patience, love, and FORGIVENESS, but it is doable. Of course, if the man is beating her like a pulp and continues to do so then for the sake of saving one's life and possibly the children, by all means leave, and leave quickly.
       Circumstances where a wife is beating up on her husband, physically or verbally can be a bit more tricky because often times the husband is more physically stronger and intimidating than his wife. But there are wives who physically abuse their husbands and if such abuse is beginning to become life threatening then he needs to consider leaving his woman in order to protect his life or both and protect their children if they have any. Verbal abuse is trickier. Here he needs to follow the advice of a wise pastor or counselor but please don't do what Ray Rice did.

Saturday, August 30, 2014

Michael Sams, Was Coming Out Necessary?

      

       He came out. He came out loud and proud, oh yes he did. Michael Sam is a defensive lineman from Missouri University whom every football fan and many who don't even watch the sport knows was drafted seventh round by the St Louis Rams in this year's NFL draft. The big question has been will Michael Sam's sexual preference influence whether or not he makes the team? Details of this question ranges from is the Ram's organization going to keep Michael because of pressure from the media and pro-gay groups or will they cut him because of not wanting to deal with any negative effects arising from his being homosexual. Well the question was partly answered. On August 30, 2014 Michael Sam was officially cut from the St Louis Rams as they set their final roster of 53 players. Liberal media was rooting for him to make the team but in the end the truth was, as most people following this event already knew, Michael Sam is not that great of a football player. Why the St Louis Rams really chose him in the seventh round when he technically was not rated an exceptional, talented player by the experts is now up to everybody else's opinion.
        Commentators, experts often state that the Rams roster is already filled with much defensive lineman talent. The brilliant capability of the Ram's defensive lineman roster is often used as an explanation for Sam's minimal chance of making the team. Nobody in the media bothers to ask the Rams head coaches why they would draft Sam, a defensive lineman, in the seventh round, if they pretty much had that roster filled with talent already? Did the Rams organization feel compelled to pick Michael Sam because of all the media attention thrown upon him? Did they feel sorry for him? Did the Rams desire all the media attention and focus that obviously would be laid upon the team if they chosen him? But in the end all the attention will not make up for a lack of talent, especially in a league where five NFL coaches were fired in one day on the year 2013, referred to as Black Monday. In such a tough league where the head coach is held accountable not just for whether or not he has a winning record but also for making the playoffs and winning championships the coach cannot afford to waste draft picks in order to please the pro gay political crowd?
       Some personal uneasiness may have been related to either the Rams choosing Sam or releasing him, or even both. But likely the public may never know because of a lack of desire to deal with a media crowd who is hostile towards anyone who chooses to openly state or even imply any type of disapproval for homosexuality. A perfect example is the serious backlash ESPN received when one of the network's reporters, Josina Anderson, who asked Rams teammates about Michael Sam's showering habits and its possible affect on the team, whether or not it influenced his chances of making the team. These are legitimate questions that many people and not just sport fans would like to know. And if Michael Sam wants to come out. If he wants to be the proud NFL spokesman for homosexuals then he must be willing to answer these very logical and important questions. He can't always be running away from truthfully replying to people's concerns regarding a homosexual man being around naked men in the shower room. It is not fair for the men who do feel uneasy or who have concerns, maybe memories of past sexual abuse or harassment from adults in the past, or even former teammates.
       America cannot continue to hide from the concerns that homosexuality brings, especially when openly bringing such behavior in locker rooms. The locker room is private. This is not the place for someone to boast about his or her sexuality. Remembering that famous open mouth kiss Michael Sam and his manager/boyfriend, Vito Cammisano gave each other, unwisely, in front of the entire television public, Michael Sam does not make good decisions toward promoting himself, or cause, out in the general public. Regardless of how many states vote for gay marriage not many people want to see two men french kiss on family television. His decision to behave the way he did was very dumb and it may have influenced the Ram's decision to cut him. More importantly that kiss may have influenced many other NFL teams to stay away from him. But, if so the Rams likely won't tell us. These other teams who chose to stay away from this potential Jerry Springer type fiasco likely won't ever tell us. And it is very possible that Michael Sam is asking himself these same questions. But if he is, will he be man enough to tell someone? Will he come out in front of the media and state such concerns his kiss and coming out had on his making the team? Well that is up to Michael Sam. Now, of course, as mentioned by the media many times, he could always be picked up by another team but  even so, he will still have to answer tough questions regarding his open sexuality and its effect on his and his team's performance. There will still be teammates who will be concerned about him staring at them while they are taking a shower in the locker room. Memories of that kiss will still be in people's heads. He will still have many future questions to answer regarding his homosexuality and how it is affecting his personal life. People will still want to know whether his living his life as a gay man is influencing his career, ability to play football. And if Michael Sam wants to be proud and come out, he better be ready to face those questions and not run from them.

Monday, August 11, 2014

Robin Williams, Suicides and Hollywood

       While noticing the regular evening news being interrupted by an emergency I immediately knew that something tragic happened. "Oh no!" I thought out loud. "What happened this time" Hearing about Robin Williams death surprised me at first but later the news described his having bouts with depression. Then in a later news session a gentleman described people who are very funny, ones who joke a lot as often using their humor to ward of struggles, doubts they have within their own minds. I then began thinking about Hollywood and the many characters in the past who have experienced hectic lives full of wild tirades, divorces, runaway children, and even tragic deaths. 
       One famous character that comes to mind is the funny wannabe sexy rock singer Michael Hutchence. Now admittedly, this crooning star was viewed as sexy to some of his fans and media. I thought of his moves as entertaining in a comedic fashion. I remember as a young lad laughing at some of his supposedly sexy moves while watching his videos with my little brother. No we did not consider him sexy at all in any fashion whatsoever. Even though I would not dare buy any of his music I have to admit to myself I did have a slight attraction to a few of his songs even though I would not listen to any of his INXS songs now. Though his arms waves and hip slides looked very cartoonish to me it still saddened me as an adult to hear of his death and not just to hear of his death but they way he died. The guy hung himself. Now what a way to die. Why would a guy making all that money (unless he was in debt at the time) want to hang himself in such a terrible fashion causing all that pain and suffering, and humiliation to his body. Was what he was suffering from that bad? I don't know much about his death besides the fact that his life was full of drugs and alcohol. Maybe that is all I need to know. Drugs and alcohol is like the pied piper in many of these famous characters lives. Both are the two demons that talk in tag team fashion to their famous captive telling him or her repeatedly that whatever they are going through, regardless of how many fans they have, how many people like them, no matter how pretty their spouses, boyfriends, or girlfriends, how much money they have, or how much money they got in the bank, that they are worthless. And these celebrities often believe it.
       Sadly, Robin Williams had his own heavy bouts with alcohol and cocaine throughout his acting career. The exact connection between alcohol and cocaine with his death is unknown at this time. The drug likely is connected with his struggle with suicide as it often is with many people. Famous people like Robin Williams, the big winners in the eyes of most of the world, battle with obstacles that many of us cannot comprehend. Unfortunately being a big guy living within a space only reachable by the very few he likely felt isolated and out of touch with reality. He probably had  desires to experience a normal life, have regular, ordinary friendships. He very possibly desired to have walks out in the open to stores, everyday restaurants, maybe even visit a local church without people staring at him, making faces, pointing gestures. He likely often felt awkward being out in the in public unless he was scheduled to be funny. Wouldn't it be wonderful if Robin Williams had Jesus in his life? Wouldn't it have been nice if he would have had someone to call upon His Name whenever he felt those doubts, those periods of loneliness, or even fear? Someone he would know for sure is not listening to him because he is famous or in order to get something from him.
       Unfortunately the beat will likely go on and Hollywood will continue as it usually is harassing the Justing Biebers, gossiping about the Jennifer Lopez's of this world until they are about to go nuts. Except for an occasional condolence here and there and a few shot outs in a period of a week or two Robin Williams death will very likely be forgotten. Hollywood will be back to square one. The lonely actors, singers, and comedians will again be smiling for the cameras, acting wild, making jokes then when the camcorders, polaroids leave their faces acting a totally new character, themselves, for the first time for who knows how long.
       The Christians have a missionary field. I have witnessed an arts and entertainment sector in a previous church I was a once a member, with a spoken mission to reach the famous, especially those in arts and entertainment but I am not very sure if such a strong mission or if many exists today. Much of Hollywood despite what they media portrays, is likely one of the most isolated settings existing in the world today. Hollywood needs love. There are too many Lady Gaga's and Madonna's out there portraying the ideal that everything is alright. "No", everything is not alright. Hollywood needs help. The next severely depressed, famous individual needs to know that he or she has a choice and this option is a winner. He or she needs to know that there is a better way and that way is through Jesus Christ.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will Romans 12:2.

 

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Saturday, July 5, 2014

FIFA's Annihilation of Mexico

       Yes it's late. The game did occur a week ago but what occurred during the match has been on my mind since. Anyone who carefully watched the game and is willing to be honest would admit that the calls truly favored Mexico's opponent, the Netherlands, that day. The Dutch team was truly being beaten by what the commentators and analyst would hate to admit was a better team. The advantage was Mexico's and if one would have taken away much of the terrible foul calls against them and erroneous offside calls the Mexican team may have even won the game by at least two. Now I said "may have", not would have. But alas soccer fans will not be given the chance to at least find out because just like the game with Ivory Coast vs Greece, the World Cups referees took the power of deciding the game winner away from the two opposing teams and kept that power all to themselves. They gave a Dutch striker a free kick at the last minute of the game, similar to what was provided to Greece, on a horrible dive that one typically sees many times ignored by the referees in other World Cup matches. I just witnessed the quarterfinal game between Argentina and Belgium. If the July 5 match between those two teams received similar calls for the many times Belgian and Argentinian players ended up on the ground spectators would have witnessed several free kicks, likely over five during one match. Unfortunately, FIFA has not developed a strict rule determining what is and what is not a free kick. They have left it up to humans whom we the fans are supposed to trust will be honest and fair. Unfortunately, oftentimes in these crucial games the officials are not honest or fair. They have given games away to teams they favor, likely because the teams reside in the European continent, while officiating harshly against African teams and other European opponents. The event is supposed to be called the World Cup. In order for that title to be true to its name it would only be right for talented teams from countries in North America, the Caribbean Islands, and Africa be allowed to play through a tough, spot determining game without always receiving a lot of fouls, yellow cards, and at times erroneous offside calls being called against them.
       There is a reason why Brazil and Argentina are the only teams outside of Europe to win World Cup championships during current times. One huge reason is because those two countries are very talented. Their countrymen love soccer and their lands are immensely deep with football talent. Another major reason is because these two countries often receive much respect from the referees. USA is close to receiving as much respect, the country just is not as deep in the talent level but they are getting there. Some of these African teams are there. They have the talent. They just need to receive the respect from the referees. They need to be able to go after the opponent's ball without almost always receive a foul. They need to be able to play important matches where one cannot always assume that they will receive more yellow cards than the other team. Greece was a not a very talented team and was given a freebie into the next round. Their poor skills was obvious against a better Costa Rica team which Greece almost beat because again receiving much biased calls and assistance from the referees.
       Now before one assumes that the author of this blog is simply complaining and crying because his team lost, I took much time to read the comments of readers from several World Cup match articles from different websites. I read many articles from readers in US, Africa, Europe, Asia who felt that Ghana, Ivory Coast, Mexico, Costa Rica were treated unfairly during their matches. Some have commented that Costa Rica were nearly robbed, by poor officiating, of their win against Greece.
       Before each World Cup match FIFA have the players stand in the middle of the field and recite some kind of speech about them and FIFA disapproving of racism. YEAH RIGHT!!!.  I will believe that when I am able to see Nigeria play against the Netherlands or Germany in a meaningful game without being carded several times and the other team awarded free kicks. Standing against racism means more than making speeches or even handing out money. I have been watching the World Cup for a long time and yes the FIFA officials have improved a little. The over, obvious racism, like name callings by commentators during matches have decreased. One does not witness as much the referees yelling or acting rude towards opponents from Third World Countries, but the phantom foul calls and providing of free kicks for swan dives and opponents simply playing good defense needs to stop. Players need to be forced to have to earn their goals. That is what makes the game competitive. That is what makes the World Cup exciting. If certain players and teams no longer have to earn their goals then the excitement and competition dwindles.

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Referee's Brutal Dishonesty

       Did you see the game?
       Chances are you didn't. The match was one of three that occurred Tuesday in the World Cup. The game was between Greece and Ivory Coast. Not a headliner but an important match for both countries nonetheless. Both teams would advance the next round with a win. Ivory Coast would also advance with a tie. Greece could only advance to the next round with a win. In the Word Cup the Ivory Coast like African teams in general not only represent their country but in many ways their entire continent. African teams are well underrepresented in the World Cup being represented by only five teams. Not too long ago the number of African Teams represented in the big tournament was two. Very little is expected in performance and wins from African teams during the world famous event that occurs every four years. That is why when one or more African countries show their strength and defeat teams represented from other countries or make it out of the first round many Africans as a whole stand behind these teams in show of support.
       Ivory Coast was on its way of at least tying Greece in a game it needed to tie to make it to the next round. They appeared to have much control of the game with very little left on the game clock. Sadly with a minute left in the match during extra time the Ecuadorian referee, Carlos Vera, called a brutal, punishing penalty out of nowhere giving the Greece team a wrapped present. Greece was allowed to have a free kick in the penalty box, basically giving them the game. The penalty call was extremely questionable since it looked inadvertent and one often sees tackles and challenges that are way more violent or dangerous. The Greece team was not even in the middle of a serious scoring threat. And why end a serious game like this in a penalty kick? What happened to a team working hard and earning their way to the next round? Why should who wins or lose be up to the likes and opinion of one individual?
      During the match Ivory Coast got called for 23 fouls while Greece got called for only 12. Ivory Coast was handed by the referee 3 yellow cards while Greece received one. While viewing the match one would notice the Ivory Coast being called for foul after foul allowing Greece to continue advancing the ball forward, enabling them to continue holding possession. One cannot help but to think if all those one-sided fouls were not consistently called if the Ivory Coast may have even won the game because their opponent often displayed themselves as not being able to advance the ball unless the referee helped them out with calling a foul on their opponent thereby providing them with a free kick. The Ivory Coast team was able to keep the score at a tie even during such unfavorable treatment.
        The call appeared to arise out of racism, possible deep dislike for African teams which is prevalent in World Cup soccer and has been occurring for a long time. The Ivory Coast is not the only African team who has been treated much disrespect from game officials. As a soccer fan who has viewed World Cup games since the eighties I have witnessed many games involving African teams where they were constantly being called for foul after foul many times having their essential players being booted out of games for simply acts of competitive aggression, a desire to go after the ball and win, as if the referees rather that they walked around the field with their heads down and arms hanging behind their backs. Many times, this year especially, world cup commentators make comments about African teams poor showing on World Cup matches, as the commentator made mention during the Ivory Coast, Greece match. These commentators ignore the fact that many World Cup games involving African teams have displayed a contest where the competitors from this continent where carded multiple times and aggressive, motivated plays was offset with continuous fouls being called against them. They also fail to admit that for a long time Africa was only allowed two teams in the World Cup while teams from Europe and South America dominated the teams represented in the tournament.
       While visiting Nigeria a long time ago as a young lad, I remember watching Cameroon play in a match and the game commentator Seamus Malin describe one of the Cameroon players using the word, "niggardly". I felt shocked to hear such a word pronounced on television especially while African players were out on the field. Growing up hearing Malin commentate soccer games in America I never thought that man would ever characterize black people in such a manner. I was shocked that an individual would be allowed to speak such trashy language on world television and life would be allowed to go on without even a slight challenge from anybody.
      But now focusing back on the present what occurred against the Ivory Coast was wrong. The best team did not win that game. The competition was obviously tainted by a horrible call by a man who is either extremely racist or who may be involved in some kind of under level game fixing.
       Racist people should not be allowed to officiate World Cup games. The World Cup is what it is. It is the World Cup not the European  Cup or the European and South American Cup. It is the World Cup, meaning that it is supposed to represent the world and all teams from all parts of the world, Europe, the Americas, Africa, Asia, the Samoan Islands, Australia, Antarctica should all be treated with respect. If someone does not like African people then he does not need to be refereeing any game. If FIFA, the international governing body of association football, who is responsible for the World Cup, does not like black people, or African countries, then they should state their hatred openly so that people around the world will understand fully where this organization stands and what they are really about. People who want to view real competition can then hold their own version of a world cup where teams from Africa and Asia can compete freely and openly without being concerned of some official disallowing them the ability to deliberately compete to win.

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Is Sexism to Blame for the UCSB Shootings

       Reading through recent news of the University of California Santa Barbara one notices the media's often portraying sexism, men's lack of respect, high disregard for women (except for sex of course) as the reason behind the murder of those unfortunate sorority girls. The young college women were gunned down by a madman attacker, Elliot Rodger, who stated through his manifesto that women in general were not providing him any love and attention.  This murderer complained nonchalantly during a self made video that women were always rejecting him and now he promised to get revenge via assassination.
       On television and print the media constantly pounds on the terms "sexist society", "fear", "rapist", "wife abusers". Chants of "women's rights"reverberated, along with constant repeats of "no means no", and the common accusations of men being monsters who lack the ability to control their hormones. After listening to one deeply emotional, and at times hyped response after another. One cannot help but to think: Is it possible that the much of the media and their audience has missed the boat? Is it possible that the horrible crimes done against these women have nothing or at least minimal involvement with sexism?
       One important fact that the feminist noisemakers almost always fail to note is that the killer stabbed three young college male students to death during the beginning of his murder mayhem. He also shot to death another young man while mowing down several other people with his car. His final gunned down victim was a very handsome young man. So even though his heartless speech voiced his anger toward women his actions brought a lot of violence upon men as well.
       The media came closer to hitting the bulls eye when mentioning the fact that Elliot Rodger was socially aloof, he often complained about his lack of ability to obtain sexual relations with women, he filled his life playing violent video games, he comes from divorced parents, the police, though given previous warnings of this man's evil character, failed to make a proper response. Why isn't more attention made to Elliot Rodger's character and upbringing? Let's also mention that his father is the director to a popular but also violent series "The Hunger Games".  Has anyone eve mentioned his dad's line of work and the possible negative influence his job, or entertainment production may of had on his son's character? While browsing through the web one will witness hundreds of examples of this crazy guy's view of life as well as his personal problems and failures.
        Yes, much sexist remarks are made by the author during his rantings in his videos. His obvious view of women as sex objects is demeaning and disrespectful of women but to blame sexism and men's degrading of women on this madman's tirade entirely misses the boat and can produce future consequences. America, the world, has a history of showing, promoting violence, slutty sex, a disregard for life in much of its movies, television dramas, books, cartoons, you name it. Children, while in school, are encouraged to date at a young age and obtain their first kiss. While in middle school some students will go through three or more girlfriends/boyfriends. Some will have had sex with one or more of them during that time. While in high school, students will have another three or more girl or boyfriends. Some will engage in more sexual relationships. Some of these will be one timers with individuals they met during field trips, parties, dance clubs, away sports games, etc. If one has ever attended a party school or had high school friends who were very horny, they will understand. Don't mention college. The first 2-3 weeks of school is often a free for all where all kinds of craziness occurs, action and events that have nothing to do with education. Some of these occurrences sound funny and admittingly was funny at the time committed but after witnessing the angry voices, the early pregnancies, the sad faces, even tears, one quickly learns that there often are heavy consequences for reckless sexual adventure.
       Young children should be focused on God, their parents, family, school, and their future. Popularity, sex, and extracurricular activities should come later. Unfortunately, society has the order going the other way around. Children are more concerned about what their friends think. And at times some of these, though not always intentionally, will not seek out the best alternatives and choices for their buddies. No child should be looking for sex during their middle school and high school years. I know that will sound funny to many individuals but think about Elliot. If he was not so obsessed with sex and about himself being a virgin, he would have had the patience to complete his studies, get a good job, and through hard work and good manners find a nice young lady who could later be his wife. There is nothing wrong with waiting to have sex until marriage but often times the media along with much of society describes such an arrangement as either impossible or weird. God does not call such an arrangement weird but gives it as a command. Marriage [is] honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge Hebrews 13:4. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh Genesis 2:24 .   Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband 1 Corinthians 7:2.
       I know that quoting scripture is not popular for much of the population and I can hear the "do not judge" responses resonating to and fro but just as society often finds itself searching for wisdom and truth from the likes of Buddhism and/or Humanistic teachings much wisdom can be retrieved from the Word of God. From the Word and by reading about the travails of the People of Israel, the plight of Samson, Judas, and Peter, the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah, even the fall of Adam and Eve one can witness the destruction that can befall man once he or she separates him or herself from God believing to be too strong, too intelligent, too independent to need Him. The murders at UCSB is the latest in many occurrences of in school shootings. People in society are clinging to Ellen Degeneres, gay rights, and yoga while fighting against God and Christianity. Attorneys as well as politicians are trying to rewrite the laws created by our founding fathers in order to make an enemy out of Christianity while placing immoral sex, polygamous relationships, adulterous marriages on America's throne. Some don't know that while taking Jesus Christ of America's throne they are replacing Him with Satan. Some do know but could care less. Which brings back the question: Is sexism to blame for the UCSB shootings? After reading this blog and mentally going through this country's list of events during the past 30 plus years one will discover that the answer to this question is very simple. America's people can preach sexism and women's rights all day all night. Such won't stop people like Elliot Rodger from being loners and behaving callously. America has to look deep within itself and ask itself do we want to change?

Sunday, May 11, 2014

Let Our Girls Go

       Boko Haram has done it again. Repeatedly this nonsense group has harassed both the Christian and non Muslim people of Nigeria. They refused to leave alone people who refuse to attach their lives to the rules and lifestyle of Islam. Unfortunately, people living in the northern half of Nigeria have paid with their own freedom, body, and lives for their choice to not follow Muslim rules and traditions. Now the harassment and terror has highlighted much worldwide attention in a remote northeastern corner of the country, a secondary school in Chibok, Nigeria. On April 14 over 200 Nigerian school girls have been abducted by the fanatic, religious group. And several more have been abducted since then even after promises made by Nigerian President Jonathan Goodluck to get those girls back. As of today nobody knows the whereabouts of these girls. The United States of America have made promises to help. They along with the Nigerian leaders even gave stern warnings to Boko Haram of potential consequences but the rebel group leader Abubaker Shekau continues to laugh them off, refusing to take them seriously. He ruefully insists on forcefully marrying these girls off to strangers as if he owns them. The US military managed to send 18 soldiers to Nigeria to provide search and rescue assistance. They along with the British military have sent eavesdropping equipment to search the Sambisa forests where some believe the girls to be hidden. National leaders, including President Obama, his wife Michelle, as well as Hilary Clinton have called out Boko Haram for the release of these girls. US celebrities like Anne Hathaway, Amy Poehler,  Kim Kardashian, and Alicia Keys have publicly insisted that the terrorist group release the innocent students.
       The people of Nigeria have emphatically thrown their leader President Jonathan Goodluck out in front of the world, holding him accountable for his government's seemingly lack of concern for the girls captivity. The people, parents, siblings, grandparents, friends, citizens tired of being harassed for not desiring to follow religious traditions that they feel have no part of them have gone in front of the television cameras and internet videos displaying their weariness and displeasure in their leader's shortage of serious action. Us military leaders have commented on the leader's lack of interest in receiving their help. Countries like France, China, and Britain have also offered their assistance, strangely the Nigerian leader has not responded to them with the eagerness or desperation that a typical person with concern for the safety of his or her own people would respond. What if these were his own children? What kind of picture does his lack of interest portray to the world who is watching? African nations already own a terrible history for their treatment of their own people, especially women. Though it is unfair to judge and associate African countries together as if they are one huge country. As it is, Africa is a continent filled with many different countries that have their own separate rulers, laws, religions, different various languages, and customs. But many people in the world still habitually view the continent as one. In many ways what one African nation does influences the world's opinion of the remaining nations.
       The good news is that all of this present worldwide attention may force the Nigerian government to make an honest effort to rescue these girls. The country may now send serious military power against the Boko Haram force in order to get these girls out of these militant's hands and back into the safety of their families. The Nigerian military may now be motivated to send the necessary force needed to wipe out this terrorist group that has been a brutal bully to Christians and non Muslims living within the country.
      The bad news is that without the world wide attention it is very likely that very minimal action if any would have been taken against Boko Haram. Without the attention of people like Michelle Obama and Hilary Clinton, and the western media it is very likely that these girls would be doomed. Unfortunately President Goodluck resembles a lack of concern Nigerian leaders have for their own people. This is a matter any Nigerian citizen or person very familiar with the country can state easily and at times with a shrug. But the lack of concern has also been an annoyance that is often difficult to ignore. But now with the pressure from all of the evil coming out of fanatic religious groups from the north and the increasing numbers of curious as well concerned citizens from around the globe, Nigerian leaders may be forced to care or else be added to the permanent list of the world's most terrible, inept leaders. Nigeria as a nation may face even more challenges from the world in it's struggle to rise toward becoming a richer more powerful nation. People familiar with Nigeria know very well, the country has tons of talented, rich individuals, spread out all over the world who are making money, building business, powerful ministries, successful medical and psychological practices, even popular well selling music.  Some are even in the west African nation building booming businesses while making boat loads of cash. But as a whole, as a country, Nigeria has often been a disappointment. A nation as rich as this country should be able to discover ways of handling evil like Boko Haram so that such people don't run the country. A group of radical people should not be able to so easily force their religious beliefs on other citizens.
       An obvious route towards a better Nigeria, a gerater country, is that groups like Boko Haram have to go. It is embarrassing that a well known, rich country has a gang of militants running to and fro through throughout the norther border, acting, doing as they please. Nigerian leaders must begin caring truthfully for the well being of their people. Too many leaders behave selfishly, reacting only towards their own wealth and well being, or the well being of those contracted to them via business or blood relations. Hopefully this ruthless capture of innocent women is about to ignite some heroic energy from Nigeria leaders. The world is watching.